Those words are a trap. They are used by the people who refuse to think, refuse to decide and thereby abdicate all responsibility for living. They think that decision by committee is a virtuous thing. They believe that holding an opinion and sticking to it is intransigence and dangerous. This is used by the people who hold the opinion of whomever they happen to be talking to at the moment they are talking.
It is one thing to ask your shopping buddy if that pair of skinny jeans looks good, it's quite another to ask someone, knowing ahead of time, what their stance is on any subject, to use as a decision making device knowing that if it all goes to hell in a hand basket, you will use that opinion to point the finger at the and blame them for anything that goes wrong.
It is this device that Liberals use to say that Capitalism doesn't work. Liberals try Capitalism and can't hang because they don't, as a rule, have good business sense, or they think that Mercantilism is Capitalism. And it's my fault Capitalism didn't work for them because I know, for a fact, that Capitalism always works. It's my fault that they couldn't make a go of it because they couldn't conceive of true Capitalism and true free markets. They can't do anything without some crony boosting them up and helping them out. However, it's my fault because even with the crony Mercantilism, they couldn't hang.
Why does it matter what anyone else thinks? What is your opinion? On whose judgment do you live your life? The judgment of others? Why? Are you happy living that way? Or do you go through the motions never understanding why you're so unhappy? Do you truly understand that you have put yourself in a position to be made miserable on the whim of another person who has, perhaps, no moral compunction against making you unhappy so that they may be happy?
It is important to know what YOU think. Based on what you know form an opinion on any given subject. Do you think that your best friend wears a shirt that perhaps shows off her fat rolls in a way that in unbecoming, but you've allowed her to wear that shirt because you were afraid of offending her? Quietly tell her that the blouse is unbecoming and perhaps she shouldn't wear it out shopping. If she's offended and no longer wants to shop. Go shopping yourself. You don't need her to buy that purse. If you like the purse, if it goes will all of your shoes and belts, buy the mother and enjoy the holy shit out of it.
And then go out and have a nice cup of coffee and a pastry all by yourself and enjoy the purchase and the moment. And you will know that what you think is good and right.
And BTW, even with a mouth like a sailor, I think I have a crush on Adam Carolla. Calling Maxine Waters a cunt on air was priceless.